Sessions at the USCJ/RA 20/20 Convention

Sessions at the USCJ/RA 20/20 Convention

8:45-9:45 am Music and Prayerful Evolution (Not Revolution)
8:45-9:45 am Exploring Judaism’s Tradition of Dispute in an Age of Uncivil Discourse
8:45-9:45 am From Accessibility to Inclusion
8:45-9:45 am Making the Most of Meditation and Mindfulness
8:45-9:45 am Recruitment and Retention in Our Congregations
8:45-9:45 am Torah, Technology, and the 21st Century Synagogue
12:15-1:15 pm Who Are Today’s Conservative Jews?
12:15-1:15 pm United States Tax Laws Require a Change in Your Fundraising Shpiel
12:15-1:15 pm A Farm At Your Shul: If Not Now, When?
12:15-1:15 pm Speaking to the Wall? A Historical and Contemporary Look At the Kotel
12:15-1:15 pm Building Effective Synagogue Teams
12:15-1:15 pm The Growing Connection of Liberal Jewish Passion and Jewish Pro-Palestinian Activism
12:15-1:15 pm Grappling With Questions of Faith and Family


1:15-2:15 pm Lunch Table Talk: Planning a Successful Israel Trip for Your Community
1:15-2:15 pm Lunch Table Talk: To Be Of Use
1:15-2:15 pm Lunch Table Talk: Congregational Ritual Change



2:15-3:15 pm Make In-Laws into Mishpacha and Congregations More Welcoming
2:15-3:15 pm Expanding the Jewish Family
2:15-3:15 pm Bringing In Families By Branching Out: Online Education to Enhance Community  
2:15-3:15 pm You Got Rid of What? Synagogues of Money Re-Imagined  
2:15-3:15 pm Pursuing Justice: Using Law to Confront Anti-Semitism  
2:15-3:15 pm Running Towards Tough Conversations In Your Congregation  
5:00-6:15 pm What Grandparents Need to Know about Interfaith Couples and Families  
5:00-6:15 pm Partnerships for Financial Sustainability  
5:00-6:15 pm Ilu Finu– A Capella for Jewish Prayer  
5:00-6:15 pm Addressing Mental Health in Our Communities  
5:00-6:15 pm What Can Havruta Learning (learning with a friend) Teach Us About How to Thrive in the 21st Century?  
5:00-6:15 pm Spirituality and Addiction  

April 5th, 2019 “Responding to Surface Level Sins”

Dear friends,

This weekend announces the new Month of Nissan. Now we are really getting serious – Pesach is coming. As we are preparing for the holiday it is important to remember that we are not just purging our cupboards of chametz but we are also cleaning out our souls. The later of these two may seem like Yom Kippur in the springtime, and you know what, I guess it is.

Our parsha this week is Tazria, which deals with the lovely topic of skin diseases and a type of surface infection that emerges on our skin, gets into our clothes, and shows up on other organic material as well. Because of the extra Month of Adar, we get to spread out this topic and speak next week about this ancient infection spreading to the walls of our homes and other physical structures.

We are always looking for ways to take a lesson from these sections of our Torah and perhaps because we find ourselves cleaning out our souls and our homes for Passover, the Rabbis have seen these chapters about organic surface infections as a warning about how actions like gossip, sins that we think could remain private, always seem to rise to the surface. According to the Torah If there is instability or conflict in a community , home, or the heart of an individual someone can be there to identify it if the ailment is not brought out into the open and dealt with.

Earlier this week I had a conversation with Adrienne London who had just returned from a trip to Spain and Portugal. We started talking about how tourists today can visit the sites marked by the terrible atrocities of the Inquisition. Something Adrienne said to me really caught my attention. She said, “The places I have visited have really owned up to their mistakes.”

Now when modern nations have such black marks in their collective pasts, it is hard to imagine them denying their history. The truth is, however, that over time the world has seen both cover-ups and owning-ups.

Something for us to think about as we are entering this new month of Nisan and cranking up the intensity of our cleaning and preparing is the extent to which groups, in this case Nations, have owned up to their pasts and the extent to which the world has been open to those who have sincerely tried to remember the past while moving forward into the future.

The world is made of concentric circles. It is often the case that actions taking place and reactions that follow on one circumference of one of the circles can bring lessons to those bodies traveling around a circle either closer or farther out from the core.

What does it take to (1) search for our imperfections, (2) make ourselves vulnerable by showing them, (3) doing the work to return from them, and (4) making room in our hearts for ourselves and others who are trying to walk the path to redemption?

A Shabbat Shalom, Chodesh Tov, and meaningful Pesach preparation to everyone,

Rabbi Daniel Victor


Actual: May 19th @ The home of Nina and Russell Rothman 2-4pm with performing artists Nava Tehila live and in person

Sneak Peek into what they do: Wednesday evening April 10th 7:00pm will be a Nava Tehila infusion at the home of Mark and Susan Cooper.

Sneak Peek into what they do: Friday evening April 12th 8:00pm will be a Kabbalat Shabbat elevated by the intoxicating melodies of our two performing artists also in preparation for their arrival.

May the light that music brings, power our righteousness through this holy Shabbat and into next week.

March 29th 2019 “Infusing Rote Practice with Meaning”

Dear friends,

This weekend our community is hosting writer and editor Jane Eisner from the Forward ( Our weekly Torah portion is Parshat Shmini, a parsha about the establishment of formal worship practices for the people and the high priests.

I see a connection between this convergence in that all of us need experiences that elevate the everyday practices which can become rote or otherwise devoid of meaning.

For many of us following the news today, reading newspapers, or online news pieces has become a process that spans the whole range. Somewhere along the spectrum is the feeling that all we can expect is more of the same, “There is nothing new under the sun.” Whether the repetition feels good, bad, or somewhere in between, over time one inherently loses interest in the exercise. What better way to wake up one’s experience of following the news than hearing from a journalist who has been in the middle of so many issues that have faced Jews in America, Israel, and around the world?

Meeting someone like Jane Eisner would be like meeting Doctor Barry Holtz after reading “Back to the Sources,” or maybe Maggie Anton after reading the entire “Rashi’s Daughters” series. And yet, what Jane is speaking about is not literature, it is the real life stories of real people and events, the significance of which we might otherwise miss if we just see them on screen or on a piece of paper. I hope many of us out there get to hear the news come to life in the words of Jane Eisner this weekend. It is an honor for our community to be hosting her.

As far as formal worship practices go, our parsha we have the process of Aaron bringing expiation to the people laid in meticulous detail. Talk about, “Seeing how the meat is made.” For some things, including the process of being forgiven for our sins, perhaps we don’t want the truth down to its inner most parts.

And yet, we believe that in these processes, in our news feeds, in our sacred liturgy, there is something of immense value.

The performing artists Nava Tehila, who are coming to Poughkeepsie in May (, are said to bring “New dedication, vitality and creativity to prayer with intoxicating new melodies that elevate the most evocative phrases from the Psalms. They invite all of us together to join them in creating a chorus of praise”.* This past Wednesday some of us met in Linda and Eric’s home to experience the work and music of the group in preparation for their visit. I want to share with you how we experienced two pieces of liturgy in particular that have been elevated with new melodies by Nava Tehila.

Or Zaruah, a piece we sing on Friday night’s has been put to a beautiful tune by the group. The words of the song mean, “You seed light into tzaddikim, Joy into the heart of the virtuous.” We discussed what this could mean on Wednesday. Does it mean that those who are righteous are gifted with light, that those who are righteous bring light to the world, that one’s life is illuminated by being righteous, or that God injects those who are righteous with light to power them to go back out and do God’s work in the world? However we understand it, by exploring the meaning of the text we see that a melody is not creating something out of nothing, but that it is elevating a treasure that every piece of liturgy contains. A tune for Or Zaruah has to lift us up, it has to emphasize the need for a reawakening of the passion to do good in the world. Here is our experience singing the piece after talking about its meaning.

The second piece we experienced was Psalm 148, a psalm we recite during morning services.

“Hallelujah. Praise the Lord from the heavens; praise God in the heights. Praise the Lord, all majestic angels; praise God, all hosts. Praise God, sun and moon; praise the creator, all the stars of light.

Praise God, the heavens of heavens, and the waters that are above the heavens.”

My first thought when reading this psalm is thinking back to how “Goodnight Moon” is read to children. The book is repetitive, good night this and good night that, etc. How do you keep the power of the book at a high level? Should the reader use different voices, change inflection, use hand gestures, experiment with facial expressions? In the case of this psalm where we are asked to praise each and every thing, what we need is a good understanding of the flow of the psalm and a good melody to pick it up. Look at the words. The psalm begins by praising the heavens, and so one might imagine that there is, “no going up” from there. In fact, next comes the angels, and then the moon and stars, lest you think they are Divine. The flow is down…..and then all the sudden the waters, which you would think would mean ocean, take you from below the luminaries in the sky (seemingly by process of evaporation) to high above even where psalm started. So you began at a high point and the point where the following melody ends has brought you higher than where you began. Wow!

Jane Eisner comes this weekend to Poughkeepsie. Nava Tehila comes the weekend of May 19th. Hopefully you have had the chance to look at some of Eisner’s work before hearing her speak tonight, tomorrow, and/or Sunday. There will be multiple opportunities to hear the music of Nava Tehila before they arrive in May.

Sunday morning April 7th is an open date for a Nava Tehila infusion in your living room.

Wednesday evening April 10th 7:00pm will be a Nava Tehila infusion at the home of Mark and Susan Cooper.

Friday evening April 12th 8:00pm will be a Kabbalat Shabbat elevated by the intoxicating melodies of our two performing artists also in preparation for their arrival.

May the light that music brings, power our righteousness through this holy Shabbat and into next week.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Daniel Victor

Rabbi’s Blog – March 8th 2019 “Put your bread on the Table”

Dear friends,

In this week’s parsha (Pikudei) the building of the tabernacle is complete and so we are given instructions on how to set up those things which are to be placed inside. — Calling all interior decorators!

Towards the end of the parsha we read, “He placed the table in the Tent of Meeting…upon it he laid out the setting of bread before the Lord.” (Ex. 40:22-23)

One could read this verse as telling us that placing the ritual bread on the table happens immediately after the table is set down inside the sanctuary. Nahmanides (Ramban), however, points out that we learn earlier that ritual items or offerings can not be laid out until after the space is anointed and sanctified. Therefore the verse is telling us that the table is placed down in order for the setting of the bread to take place once the space is anointed.

This may seem like a small clarification, but it is important because of the context and because of what it can teach us on another level. First of all sacred worship is serious business and things have to be done in the proper order. Spaces have to be ritually sanctified before acts of worship can happen there. You have impure alters and worship tables and the results of conducting services there could be disastrous.

As Miracle Max says in The Princess Bride, “You rush the miracle maker, you get rotten miracles.”

But in truth, I have to say this commentary brings an important lesson. Simply put I am outraged both by Rep. Ilhan Omar’s words, and by the extent to which she has been willing to put her bread on the table (make statements on controversial topics) without anointing the place where her table stands (owning up to her beliefs, opinions, or biases). While being angry about what she has said, I do want to try and understand her words, mostly by pinpointing what is behind them.

Anti-semetic statements can be identified in two ways:

  • Statements that express hatred of Jews, not for what they do but for what or who they are.
  • Statements that, whether intending to or not, contain what is being referred to as, “Well-worn anti-Semitic tropes.”

I don’t think Rep. Ilhan Omar hates Jewish people, but the anti-Semitism is quite clear. I dsee is someone who is, either out of maliciousness, ignorance, or incompetence, using those well-worn anti-Semitic tropes. As a teacher of mine once said, “Never attribute to maliciousness, that which can otherwise be attributed to incompetence,” and in this case I want to believe we are seeing an example of the later not the former. Yet, I am not sure.

A friend of mine reminded me of a saying that I am going to amend a bit for this context. We are not judged by how or how many times we fall down, it is by if, how often, and how we get back up.

For me the, “How we get back up,” is essential here because while I feel unable to judge or explain her intentions by her words alone, I feel compelled to call her out on her intentions based on her responses after the fact. Her responses are not seemingly like ones made by someone who innocently used language he/she did not understand.

As we have entered the month of Adar and are now thinking about who are enemies are, I am calling on Rep. Ilhan Omar to more clearly state where she stands visa vie Jews in this country before putting her words on the table.

As Ramban teaches us, it is crucial to make clear our intentions so that our words can be understood properly. There is too much at stake to have any misunderstanding and we as a Jewish minority in this country need to know where the dangers lie.

May our sacred spaces be anointed by truth, honesty, understanding, and love of one another. When this happens, we can all break bread together.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Daniel Victor

Rabbi’s Blog 1-25-2019 – “Returning our gifts to those who gave them to us”

Dear friends,

I want to enter into Shabbat highlighting the ways our sacred texts can speak to the memories of sacred people. Every member of our community is sacred because each of us is created with a Divine spark. Each of us is sacred and each of us has story. Yesterday we laid to rest Elayne Weinstein and her story has impacted so many of us. Earlier that day I taught my class on the liturgy of Kabbalat Shabbat and we focused on the lessons of psalm 96. During, and in preparation, for the class I couldn’t help but hear the text speaking to the lessons I could learn from Elayne while also hearing Elayne voice as I delved into and thought about the text.

As I shared in my eulogy at Elayne’s funeral, psalm 96 speaks of majesty and strength. “Glory and majesty are before the one; strength and splendor are in God’s temple.”

Our text book for the class brought a great Chasidic commentary that I can share here.

“If an earthly king were to give someone a garment as a gift, to return it would be insulting and unseemly. Nevertheless, God gives us khiyyut (“ vitality, life force”), and when we bring that vitality into our d’vekut (our yearning to cleave to the Holy One), this is effectively returning it to God. But not only is God not insulted; God responds by giving us even more vitality. And, in this way, when we return life force to God every Erev Shabbat, then God returns it to us with even greater purity.”

I felt the symmetry, the back and forth between this commentary and Elayne’s story. The message also happens to speak to why we come together on Shabbat. What is Shabbat’s value proposition? We bring the Divine energy we have been gifted with into the mother-ship for a restore. When we do this not only do we get back what we came with, but we leave Shabbat with even more desire to serve than when we arrived.

Active listening, something our leaders would do well to practice if real solutions were to be reached, is an example of taking the gift of the other and returning it back to him/her only to have it come out again even more polished and more inspiring than before.

Perhaps we should all try taking in an idea and responding actively with interest and enthusiasm. When the giver of the idea sees that energy returning to him or her, I believe the next offering will be even more scintillating than before.

My Saturday morning conversations are back tomorrow morning at 9:30 as our religious school children will be with us again. The title of tomorrow’s session is
“Kinship as Spiritual Practice: A Welcoming Ambience (Part I) “How lovely are your sanctuaries and study houses descendants of Israel”

We also have Hebrew learning with Naomi Kamalot, and as part of our Torah service our first and second graders will be receiving a wonderful gift from our school.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Victor

Rabbi’s Blog Sep 27, 2018: “And they shall pray toward this house” – Experience the end of Sukkot with your community

Dear friends,

Be among the blessed and experience the last several opportunities to close out the holiday season in joy and strength (and a little confusion).

Shabbat 9-29 9:30am-12:30pm – Service at the synagogue includes a reading of Kohelet (Ecclesiastes)

“I have further observed under the sun that the race is not won by the swift, Nor the battle by the valiant; Nor is bread won by the wise, Nor wealth by the intelligent, Nor favor by the learned. For the end comes to us all.” — Kohelet 9:11

Shabbat 9-29 approx. 12:30pm – A tree dedication and Kiddush lunch brought to us by the Hochhauser Family in memory and in honor of Susan Hochhauser, z”l.

“From pushing the creation of an endowment fund to co-editing our Jubilee cookbook, Susan Hochhauser literally had her hands in the both the body and soul of Temple Beth-El.”

Shabbat 9-29 4:00pm – 7:00pm – Spackenkill Sukkah Hop brought to you by Beth-El.

The link below is to the map showing addresses and times to be at each house.

Sunday 9-30 8:30am – Hoshanah Rabbah is the final weekday Sukkot Service

There will be serious marching around with lulavim and Sifrei Torah, all with music played through our sound system, as well as serious willow whacking. Rather than being seen as a lofty psychological cleansing or a deep theological process of reforming our behavior, whacking the willows says Rabbi Brad Artson, is “…a summons back to halakhic tidiness—to cleaning up after ourselves ritually by disposing of our kelim [sacred implements] after they have served their purpose. And that is next to godliness.”

Sunday 9-30 6:00pm & Monday 10-1 9:30am – Shmini Azteret (Private time between God and Israel, Prayers for Rain, and Yizkor)

All the offerings of Sukkot that we read about it (Seventy for the seventy nations of the world) have lead up to one offering which signifies our unique relationship with God.

Yizkor will be recited both that evening and the following morning as well.

Tuesday 10-2 9:30am – Kallat HaTorah and Kallat B’reishit (our Torah will be blessed by two women who are so committed to our synagogue and our people).

Our Simchat Torah morning services will include the moment where we conclude the reading of the Torah and immediately start in back at the beginning.  Our two honorees, Beth Richardson and Jackie Kahn, will receive the last and first aliyot of the cycle of Torah readings.  Two more amazing synagogue leaders who epitomize how we must serve the body and soul of our Temple. Congratulations Beth and Jackie.


Sukkot is still raging on and there is so much still to come beginning this weekend.


Moadim L’simcha everyone,


Rabbi Daniel Victor


Rabbi’s Blog Aug 8, 2018: This weekend is Rosh Hodesh Elul with Rabbi Greene – It is all about LOVE

Dear friends,

There is an often quoted tradition that the letters of the Hebrew month of Elul are an acronym for Ani L’dodi V’dodi Li – I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.”

The month of Elul is a time for introspection; a time to examine our relationships.  This time is about our relationship with ourselves, each other, the world, and our creator.

I just saw the Fred Rogers documentary {Won’t you be my neighbor) and there it was revealed that for most of his adult life Rogers kept his weight at 143 pounds (he was an avid swimmer).   Why 143?  I, has one letter.  L-o-v-e, has four letters.  Y-o-u, has three letters.  – I know it is corny, but the man was genuine and he practiced what he preached.

Each time he would stand on the scale he received the message “I love you.”

Rosh Hodesh Elul falls this weekend, along with it comes our Shabbat guest: Rabbi James Greene, our third High Holiday clergy person.

Our weekend plans:

Friday night, a instrumentally enhanced service beginning at 8:00pm.

Listen here for some of the tunes Rabbi Greene, Rabbi Miriam, and I will be bringing to the service.

Saturday morning our three-headed clergy machine will be leading services beginning at 9:00am with coffee and doughnuts at our boker tov café.  One of several chances to catch a few minutes with our sacred guest.  During the sermon slot, Rabbi Greene and I will discuss (and maybe debate) some finer points of our new High Holiday Machzor.

Saturday evening from 5-9pm, come by my house and hang with Rabbi Greene and members of the community for another schmooze and games evening.  39 Hagan Drive Poughkeepsie.  Bring a favorite, fruit, veggie, drink (alcoholic or not) crackers and dip, or dessert.

Sunday morning we will have a Rosh Hodesh morning program at Vassar Farms off of Hooker Ave beginning at 8:30am.  Rabbi Greene will be leading the program which will feature some traditional prayer pieces as well as a walk on some of the farm trails.  There will be a Rosh Hodesh brunch (food) to wrap things up at the end.

Note: Unfortunately we could not obtain a golf cart for this program, so please be aware the ground is a bit uneven and there is no assistance for those with mobility challenges.  We apologize for this turn of events.  There will be people to assist, if such aid would be helpful.

This is a great chance to begin getting to know our new High Holiday clergy person (he really wants to meet everyone) as well as a time to launch our personal and communal journeys through the process of teshuvah.  Remember, it all begins with love.  Love helps us remember, it helps us be vulnerable, and it helps open us up to the process of growth and change.

In peace and……love,

Reb Victor

Rabbi’s Blog July 27th 2018 – The Need to Put our Own House in Order

Dear friends,

I was going to write here about my views on the Nation State Bill that was passed just before Tisha B’Av.  I have decided to speak about it tomorrow morning in shul.  Here I am going to speak about addressing our own house.  Aside from the Nation State Bill having been passed, a Masorati colleague of mine was arrested in Israel for performing Jewish marriages without informing the orthodox rabbinate.

On Tisha B’Av we mourn the destruction of our temples by the Romans and the Babylonians.  It is easy for us to put the tragedies of our people on the shoulders of others.  But is it now time, if we are really seeking comfort for a people seemingly always under stress, to put our own house in order.

Last week the Rabbinical Assembly put out a statement in reaction to the arrest:

We, the Masorti/Conservative Movement representing two million Jews around the world, are outraged by the arrest this morning of Rabbi Dov Haiyun of Moriah Congregation in Haifa, who was awoken at 5:30 am by police for the “crime” of officiating at a wedding outside the authority of the Israeli ultra-Orthodox Chief Rabbinate. Rabbi Haiyun potentially faces two years in prison for officiating at this wedding.

Rabbi Haiyun, who was ordained by the Masorti/Conservative movement at Schechter Rabbinical Seminary in Jerusalem, is the first to be arrested for this act since the law forbidding any rabbi outside the Rabbinate to officiate at a wedding was passed in 2013. Today’s actions against Rabbi Haiyun marks a new and dangerous step in the ongoing attack on religious freedom and civil liberties in Israel; one, thankfully that was thwarted by order of Attorney General Avichai Mendelblit.

We uphold the right of rabbis of all Jewish streams, not just those under the auspices of the Chief Rabbinate, to conduct a wedding ‘according to the law of Moses and (People) Israel.’ We stand in solidarity with Rabbi Haiyun and all our colleagues in Israel who bring couples together in love and marriage according to the traditions of the Jewish people.

Cantors Assembly, Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs, Jewish Educators Assembly, JTS, Marom Olami
Masorti Foundation for Conservative Judaism in Israel, Masorti Israel, Masorti Olami, Mercaz Canada, Mercaz Olami, Mercaz USA, Seminario Rabinico Latinoamaericano, The North American Association of Synagogue Executives, The Rabbinical Assembly, USCJ, Women’s League for Conservative Judaism, Zacharias Frankel College, University of Potsdam, Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies, American Jewish University

A statement by our sister movements is important, but what are we really going to do to change things?  Israel is continually alienating Am Yisrael; the entire Jewish people who live within the Diaspora.  One of my colleagues suggested that enough of our rabbis should move to Israel so that we can start a political party that can challenge the ultra-orthodox parties in Israel.  Let’s just say the package of plane tickets hasn’t been purchased yet.

But there must be something to do.  There must be ways for the openness and tolerance we see more often than not here in this country for example, to influence how Eretz Yisrael operates (No, our internal pluralism is not perfect).  Liberal Jews must stand up against those in Israel and in other areas of the world who argue that Conservative and Reform Jews are destroying Judaism.  It is simply not true.

I believe that our commitment to Israel must get stronger rather than weaker at times when the Israeli government takes such actions.  We have learned recently in this country that just because a law is on the books, doesn’t mean that it must be enforced.

This week’s parsha brings us the words of the Shema.  We are reminded by these words that God, our creator, is one.  God is not divided, God is unity, and so we must be a unified people.  Israel must hear from the Jews of the Diaspora that such actions will not be tolerated.  This is an issue within “our house” and action needs to emerge in order for Judaism to be most effective in bringing our ethics and morality to the larger world.

Shabbat Shalom,

Reb Victor